Wednesday, August 13, 2008
Saturday, August 9, 2008
Tiendesitas - A Place To Be
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Friday, August 8, 2008
My Dream Phone - Sony Ericsson W960i
Because I don't have my Ipod and digicam anymore, I’m thinking of buying a 2-In-1 phone, a phone where you can store a large number of songs and at the same time, a phone that you can use if you want to take pictures. I’m talking about Sony Ericsson’s latest addition to their walkman series – the W960i. It’s a third generation phone with 8GB internal memory…very ideal for storing thousands of songs. And it does not end there, the walkman touch player will let you manage your music the easy way, just use your fingers to play the song you want to hear. Its 3.2megapixel camera is equipped with zoom, flash, and auto focus. And if you want to get connected to the World Wide Web, you can also rely on this handset; it has Symbian UIQ and Wi-Fi. Just perfect! Check this out!Posted by - maida - at 2:00 PM 2 comments
Wednesday, August 6, 2008
Cebu Pacific - Always On Time or Always Delayed?
With Cebu Pacific’s tempting low fare rates, you can go to your desired places at any time you want and without having second thoughts. With their line “it’s time everyone flies”, you’ll surely book a flight immediately. And that’s what I did. I instantly booked for a flight to _______ (haha!) my friends kept on asking me where I’ve been. It’s a secret. Going back to the topic, this is not my first time (it’s my 4th) to travel with Cebu Pacific and this is not my first time to experience a delayed flight as well. On my four air travels with Cebu Pacific, I have experienced two delayed flights.My first travel with Cebu Pacific was November last year (Manila-Iloilo). Actually, I should be traveling with Cebu Pacific from Legazpi to Manila and from Manila to Iloilo with Philippine Airlines. Unluckily, the weather that day was not so good; as a result Cebu Pacific cancelled the flight. I had no choice but to ride a bus from Legazpi to Manila and book another flight (with Cebu Pacific) from Manila to Iloilo the next day. November 30, 2007 - If I remember it right, we should leave Manila by 4PM but unfortunately, we left Manila past 5 already. Almost an hour and a half of waiting…sigh…
My second delayed flight experience with Cebu Pacific happened last Monday. ETD: 5:05PM, ETA: 6:10PM…but guess what…we left _______ Airport at 7:05PM…2hrs of waiting (again)…
So, what do you think? Will I book with Cebu Pacific again?
Perhaps, I would check the fare rates with Philippine Airlines first before booking a flight with Cebu Pacific…
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Monday, July 28, 2008
Eyebrow Threading
Just came back from a parlor near our place and tried eyebrow threading…yeah, it was my first time and I would definitely have my eyebrows threaded (?) from now on…Without a doubt, eyebrow threading is much cheaper than waxing, less painful compared to plucking and wait until you see the result – clean and defined hairline…aside from those advantages, it is also a long lasting hair removal technique because it removes hair by the follicle…if you want to know more about eyebrow threading, click this.Posted by - maida - at 8:24 PM 0 comments
Everything About Pisceans
GENERAL FEATURESWater sign ruled by Jupiter and Neptune. Pisceans are subtle, patient, sweet and tolerant. However, they can be also touchy and treacherous. Their typical features are a complex character, a great fantasy and an extraordinary learning ability. They are irresolute and they are not keen in organizing, so that they prefer to be led by other people, both in private and in working life. Typical jobs are: football player, nurse, medium, mechanic and photographer. They have a strong religious feeling and artistic sensibility. Being so reserved, it is not easy to know and understand them thoroughly. Friendship and true and long-lasting love are for Pisceans extremely important.
SEDUCING PISCEAN MEN
Piscean men are idealist, complex, romantic and unforeseeable, but also touchy and sensitive. They need to be covered with love and attention. Their ideal woman should be able to take the imitative. Make him understand that you love order, precision and art. TIP: Never touch his things. He is very possessive.
SEDUCING PISCEAN WOMEN
Piscean women are romantic, sweet, and fragile. They have the gift to make a man feel he's the most important thing in the world. They like to be praised, fondled and they want you to listen to them, or else they suffer and become sad. The ideal man must be strong and "solid". TIP: Talk a lot with her.
The Pisces Women And Their Characteristics
PHYSICAL APPEARANCE:
Generally, Piscean women are seen to be not very tall and plumpy .
The eyes are quite big and protruding. Hands and feet are either strikingly beautiful or else out proportioned, big and bulky.
The shoulders are muscular and spherical.
MENTAL ATTITUDE:
You are philosophical, restless and honest. You can go beyond your means to help people in need.
Not perturbed easily, you can help even your opponents calm down by your gentle behavior .Your nature is to forgive and forget.
GENERAL NATURE:
Your mind is not very steady. It often wanders from spiritualism to materialism. This reduces your concentration thereby making it difficult to achieve your full potential. A Piscean woman may also lack in self confidence. However that does not deter her from being an expert planner.
You will aim very high and can develop right connections to achieve your aims. Generally, Pisceans develop good connections that they enact at the right time.
You are either at the top of the ladder or else at the bottom of it. Generally, Pisceans being too ambitious either rise to very high positions or else turn into dreamers and are unable to fight the battle of life.
You will have a strong wish to go to foreign lands and visit beautiful places.
HEALTH:
You may be drawn towards excesses that means you may be eating and drinking in excess, making you ill. You may suffer from varicose veins or guinea worms.
Problems connected with liver, ankles and feet are possible. You should take care of them.
MONEY:
Generous by nature and ever helping your friends, you are unable to save much. Though due to your mental capacity, which is far in excess of women of other signs, you have a high income level.
You will not like to depend on anyone for finances and you are wiling to do even extra work to keep your self financially secure.
ROMANCE & SEX LIFE:
Very romantic by nature, you dream of romance. However you may feel somewhat frustrated as the dreams seldom come true in actual life.
You are very suspicious, you will keep a tab on your lover and if you see him friendly with another women you feel the pinch.
You are loyal and once you form a relationship, you continue it for a long time though sometimes you may feel a sudden loss of interest in your partner. Many a time, Piscean women can carry two or more relationships simultaneously.
Having a basically shy nature, you are not the one who will make a move yourself in love life. You will expect your lover to make all the moves and you will only react to them.
But, sometimes you can act completely differently. With deception, you can easily control your men with your superior brain and use them for your purposes.
Any foreplay involving water will turn you on; feet are your hot spots.
MARRIAGE:
You will dream of marrying a Mr. Perfect and you will want him to have all the qualities possible in a husband. But you will not be working hard to get him. Thus, chances of delay in marriage or a marriage which will not work are not ruled out. You will require a very diplomatic and well mannered husband to stay on.
Piscean woman keeps good upkeep of her house. Being yourself fond of food and drinks you will stock them well for guests also.
For a stable married love life, you should check your dreamy nature and live in practical world.
CAUTION:
Having very high desires, dreams and a changeable nature are your worst problems. You should live in the practical world and be less utopian if you want to be successful.
PISCES THE FISHES
February 19 - March 20
The twelfth sign of the zodiac is concerned with:
* compassion, sympathy, love, altruism
* dreams, the psychic, clairvoyance, sixth sense
* illusions, magic, film, fantasy, make-believe
* art, drama, music, poetry, prose, dance
* unusual talent, memory, wisdom, versatility
* sensitivity, intuition, humor, satire
* secrets, fulfillment of life, eternity
Elemental Quality
Pisces is the mutable water sign of the zodiac. It can be likened to a warm, turquoise lagoon, twinkling in the sunshine, or to a strong ocean current rising from the depths to break over a rocky shore, smoothing the pebbles for all time.
Mutable means changeable, and water can change its form in many ways: rain, hail, snow, mist, frost, clouds, rainbows, warm pools, and puddles; thus, Piscean feelings can change a dozen times a day.
Spiritual Goal
To learn the meaning of peace through service to others.
The Piscean Personality
These are the general personality traits found in people who are typical of Pisces. An unhappy or frustrated Pisces may display some of the not-so-attractive traits.
Secret Pisces
Anyone who has strong Piscean influences is a person who has perhaps the most extreme choices of any zodiac sign. Pisces can accept the challenges of life and rise to the top, or can give in to the easy way of oblivion and sink to the bottom. This choice is symbolized by the two fishes.
To help him or her swim to the top, the Pisces must find peace through beauty, music, and harmony.
The Pisces needs work which will enable him or her to achieve this. More than any other sign, Pisces has many talents which may be used to develop their character. Many work hard to improve the lot of humanity. Others bring their talents to film and entertainment, enlivening the lives of thousands.
Pisces needs to turn his/her private, mystical dream world of love and compassion into a reality. The only other option for a Pisces is a life of illusion and, ultimately, a sense of failure.
Ruling Planet and Its Effect
Jupiter and Neptune rule the zodiac sign of Pisces, so anyone whose birth chart has a strong Piscean influence will tend to bring benefit to others through their sensitivity.
In astrology, Jupiter is the planet of expansion, optimism, and generosity. Neptune is the planet of dreams, sensitivity, the unconscious, and the world of unreality.
Piscean Lucky Connections
Colors: violet, light green, blue
Plants: opium poppy, lotus, water plants
Gemstones: pearl, amethyst, beryl, aquamarine
Metal: tin
Animals: fish, dolphin
The Piscean Look
People who exhibit the physical characteristics of Pisces look more clumsy than they actually are.
They give off a feeling of otherworldliness, and usually have very sensitive, caring eyes. They may have a trusting, eager look or a quality of empathy and nonjudgement exclusive to those who truly understand human sorrows and failings.
Physical Appearance
* Body: usually short and thinkset
* Back: may stoop as the person walks
* Eyes: a sleepy appearance with large eyebrows
* Head: oddly shaped
* Limbs: generally short
The Pisces Female
If a woman behaves in a way that is distinctive of the personality associated with the zodiac sign of Pisces, she will have a tendency toward the characteristics listed below, providing there are no influences in her personal birthchart that are stronger than that of her Pisces sun sign.
Appearance
The typical Pisces woman:
* is normally slim, but tends to put on weight in later years
* has large eyes and an oval face
* has clear, soft skin, whatever her color
* has an air of feminine mystery
* has a very warm, charming smile
Behavior and Personality Traits
* does not try to dominate her partner in any way
* often appears vague and dreamy
* is subtle and, while appearing to be helpless or incapable, gets things organized and manages the finances extremely well
* protects her emotional vulnerability with humor or a sophisticated exterior
* needs to belong to someone
* has a warm, sympathetic heart
Pisces At Home
For a typical Piscean, home is a place where he or she will need to feel loved. Home can be a palace or a hovel, but it must contain people toward whom he or she is drawn emotionally and who love him or her.
Typical Behavior and Abilities
When at home, a Pisces man or woman:
* will often enter a fantasy world
* will feel safe to explore his or her imagination
* will probably have no fixed routine
* is likely to be untidy, although he or she may have a sudden urge to tidy everything to avoid confusion: this can happen at any time
* should keep a large, clear clock
* will need a space for personal privacy
* will make the home itself into a wonderful world of art, music, design, and good food and wine
Pisces as a Parent
* can happily accommodate all the fantasies of childhood
* will allow a child plenty of imaginative freedom
* may lack discipline
* listens with understanding
* encourages personal development
* may have to teach the children punctuality
* is warm and loving and rarely uses harsh words
* may tend to spoil the children
* will probably have a very personal and unusual set of rules to which the children must adhere
Two Pisces in the Same Family
Pisces is the same family should get on very well, providing they have an outlet for their vivid, unworldly imaginations. For example, Piscean siblings may build an imaginative world together; or a Piscean parent who makes fictional films will find inspiration in the ideas of his or her offspring.
Pisces at Work
At work, the person who has a typical Pisces personality will exhibit the following characteristics.
Typical Behavior and Abilities
A typical Pisces at work:
* is rarely in an executive position, nor does he or she enjoy being tied to working in a team that has a strict routine
* enjoys work that offers freedom of expression, which usually means working alone or in a self-directed position
* if working in a team, Pisces prefers an occupation that allows for frequent changes and adaptations
Pisces as Employer
A typical Pisces boss (male or female):
* is more likely to be found in organizations as a director rather than as the boss
* will serve people rather than accumulate power
* uses his or her gifts to make the correct move
* is a shrewd judge of character
* is unconventional and creative
* values those who are conventional and well organized, because they are needed to back up his or her ideas
* will never refuse help to someone in need
* may act tough to hide a deep belief in the mystical
Pisces as Employee
A typical Pisces employee (male or female):
* needs work where there is plenty of outlet for either human understanding or creative imagination
* will be depressed, lazy, and useless if neither of these needs are satisfied
* will be very affected by surroundings
* when happy is a loyal worker
* will get the job done, although nobody seems to understand how he or she operates
Working Environment
The workplace of a typical Pisces man or woman:
* must feel comfortable
* will have a pleasant atmosphere
* should be a large and flexible space
* may be brightly colored
Typical Occupations
All kinds of jobs in film, theater, TV, radio, ballet, music, and art will attract Pisces, who is often a good actor. A job that allows travel will be attractive. Advertising, public relations, and any job that is part of the service industry. Helping people to solve their problems and charitable and church work will also be very attractive to Pisces.
Pisces and Love
To Pisces, there is no difference between love, affection, and romance. A Pisces needs all three. A Pisces who feels unloved is an unhappy person to whom life seems very gray. Love revitalizes Pisces.
Behavior When In Love
The typical Pisces:
* is romantic
* eager to please
* adapts to the demands of the relationship
* appears to be helpless, delicate, and vulnerable, but being loved enables Pisces to cope very well with a range of difficulties, problems, and tragedies
* is emotionally involved, to the point of not recognizing when he or she is being deceived or treated badly
Expectations
The typical Pisces expects:
* to have his or her dreams valued and to be protected from harsh criticism
* to be cared for romantically
* to have children (Pisces love children)
* to be frequently reassured that they are loved
* all birthdays and anniversaries to be remembered
The End of An Affair
The worst possible event for a Pisces is to be rejected by the one who loved them. A partner who wants to end a relationship with a typical Pisces will find this a very difficult thing to do. Pisces will cling, convinced that if they reform in some way, everything will be all right again. The ex-partner of a Pisces may have to go to extremes to extricate himself or herself from the emotional mess that a hurt Pisces can produce.
Pisces and Sex
When a typical Pisces makes love it is an act of romance rather than of carnal pleasure...most times anyway. Typical Pisces is less interested in sexual activity than in the expressions of love that come before and afterward.
Piscean energy is more often used up in the emotional experiences of love than in the sexual act. This does not mean that Pisces in not interested.
Pisces can be the least prejudiced and most compassionate of all the zodiac signs.
Pisces will show a deep and real love for a partner who has problems or physical abnormalities, or has to face a tragedy or business disaster. Sex will be one of the expressions of love given by a caring and devoted Piscean spouse.
Pisces and Partner
The person who contemplates becoming the marriage or business partner of a typical Pisces must realize that Pisces will expect to be supported -- emotionally or financially. Given this, the person who partners Pisces can expect loyalty and sensitive understanding.
Pisces Woman As A Partner
She will want a marriage partner who will support her in every respect. To many men, Pisces is the perfectly feminine woman. She may appear to be a helpless, fluffy person but, once married, she will feel secure, and her reserve of talents and abilities will pour out in every direction.
In business, a Pisces woman will be best in creative positions and in public relations, but should not be expected to do the routine office jobs.
Opposite Sign
Virgo is the complementary opposite sign to Pisces. While Pisces adapts himself or herself to the emotional needs of others, Virgo works hard to serve others by responding to the needs of the moment with practical solutions. From Virgo, Pisces can learn how to translate Piscean sensitivity and understanding into practical action -- thus dispelling self-doubt and building confidence in his or her Piscean abilities.
Pisces and Friends
In general, Pisces likes a friend who is useful and reassuring. In return, they will give unprejudiced understanding and loyalty to their friends.
Positive Factors
Pisces are emotionally attached to their friends and will rarely take notice if the friend is taking advantage of this involvement.
Pisces are friendly, humorous, and caring friends, even if there are long periods of time between meetings.
Pisces will always think up something interesting to do and will enjoy any kind of artistic ventures.
Negative Factors
Pisces can be a confusing person, so arrangements may be difficult to make.
Pisces can sometimes seem to be cool and offhand. This is usually temporary and due to a moment of insecurity.
Pisces needs a hero or heroine to identify with. If a friend happens to be the chosen one, this can be pleasant enough but may become a nuisance when Pisces gives the friend talents he or she hasn't got and expects them to be demonstrated!
Pisces does not find it easy to conform; friends with conservative attitudes may find this a difficulty.
Piscean Leisure Interests
Most typical Pisces love artistic pursuits and anything that has an element of mystery, fantasy, and imagination.
Pisceans love films, theater, traveling entertainers, pantomimes, witches, gypsies, elves, monsters, and mythical creatures.
Team sport is not a natural Piscean activity, but Pisceans often love gentle watersports, noncompetitive skiing, and skydiving.
Dangerous sports, such as racing cars, can also appeal to the Pisces because they have an unerring instinct in such situations.
Piscean Likes and Dislikes
Likes
* seafood, champagne, and organic foods
* romantic places, sunsets over the sea, mountain vistas, waterfalls, ponds and waterlilies
* background music, poetry
* people who need their understanding
* mystical settings, candles, incense
* being Loved
* freedom to drift along from time to time
* privacy
* colorful food
* personalized gifts
* presents wrapped in magical paper
* new books
* diamonds
Dislikes
* bright, noisy, crowded places
* dirty, ugly objects
* being told to get a grip on things
* stiff clothing
* authorities
* people knowing too much about him or her
Piscean Health
Typical Pisces are healthy people so long as they feel loved and have an outlet for their dreams. Unhappy Pisces are vulnerable to problems arising from turning to drink, drugs, or other ways of getting relief from what may seem unbearable emotional insecurities.
Pisces often has to work hard to swim against the current that would pull him or her under. The constant effort of avoiding being sucked into oblivion is the cause of much distress to many Pisces, who, consequently, may suffer depression and other emotional problems.
Types of Sickness
Troubles with the feet and toes are common among Pisces: bunions, corns, ingrown toenails, boils and foot deformities may occur.
Pisces may become forgetful when illness is about to strike. They may also suffer from the effects of too much wine or too many drugs. The sensitive Piscean psyche suffers greatly in times of stress and has little to draw on by way of personal resources.
Pisces at Rest
A relaxed Pisces is the happiest person on earth. A chance to lie back, sip wine, listen to music and let the imagination wander is perfect bliss to Pisces.
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Saturday, July 26, 2008
7 things about me...
Here are the rules:
1. List these rules on your blog.
2. Share 7 facts about yourself on your blog.
3. Tag 7 people at the end of your post by leaving their names as well as links to their blogs.
You’ll have to read on for my 7 facts and see who I tagged.
1) I can’t live without my mosquito net…wherever I go, I always bring it with me…
2) I am trying hard to conceive…and I am now on my second cycle of clomid (an ovulating tablet)…hope it will work out this time…
3) I love shopping…I am an impulsive buyer…I go to the mall when I’m bored and end up buying things I don’t really need…
4) I always try to get what I want…but when I feel that I’m not happy with it anymore or if I feel that it’s of no use, I sell it…like my Sony digicam and my recently purchased ipod…
5) I don’t eat melon, guyabano, durian…my favorite fruits are watermelon, star apple, banana, and grapes…watermelon is my number one favorite…*wink*
6) I easily cry when I'm angry, sad, scared, upset, and there are times that I cry when I’m alone…
7) And lastly, I live life to the fullest because I believe that life is short…hehe!
Now I'm passing this tag to some of my blogging friends:
Mari
Cardz
Ryan
Mayan
Lyn
Abby
Chriscie
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Tuesday, July 15, 2008
lunch @ Burgoo
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Tuesday, July 1, 2008
sonya's garden, tagaytay
me, my sister, and my friends went to tagaytay last Sunday in spite of the weather…it was raining cats and dogs here in Manila last Sunday…lol…but since this is Chin’s (the one in denim jacket) last day here in Pinas, we continued with our plan – to bring her to a place she’ll never forget…and she will really never forget Sonya’s Garden because it was her first time to eat white cheese…lol…we had lunch there and went to Pink Sisters after…checkout our pictures…btw, Chin is leaving for Denmark tomorrow...gonna miss you sis...:-(
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Monday, June 9, 2008
boring monday
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Monday, June 2, 2008
Saturday, May 31, 2008
my traits =)
There are lots of things to blog about but I don’t know how to put them all into words…so just let me just share this meme with you…it’s not actually a meme because I didn’t follow the instructions from wendy's page…lol…I just copied the month of my birthday because it really caught my attention…about 80% of the traits listed below are true…=)
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Thursday, May 29, 2008
Beauty Secrets Tag
My Foundation: sorry, I don't use one
My Mascara: sorry, I don't use one
My Blush: sorry, I don't use one
My Day Cream: sorry, I don't use one
My Lipstick: sorry, I don't use one
My Beauty Product Brand: As of now, I don't have but I would prefer Clinique products.
My Essential Beauty Product: facial wash
My Favorite Makeup Product: sorry, but I rarely put make up
My Perfume: Gucci Rush (a gift from my cousin)
My Nails: I pamper them by having a manicure and pedicure once a week
My Feet: Victoria's Secret Pure Seduction Lotion
My Hands: Victoria's Secret Pure Seduction Lotion
Three Products to bring on a deserted island:
rubbing alcohol
soap
mouthwash
Woman I Admire for their Beauty: Anne Hathaway
Woman with the Best Sense of Style: Gwyneth Paltrow
My Ultimate Dream: Secret...lol
My Favorite Fashion Publication: I don't really have a favorite
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Wednesday, May 28, 2008
I have polycystic ovaries =(
Again, I can’t think of a sensible blog entry…all I know is that I want to let go of this feeling… or feelings… whatever… went to my
Polycystic ovary disease affects hormone cycles. Hormones help regulate the normal development of eggs in the ovaries. It is not completely understood why or how hormone cycles are interrupted, although there are several ideas.
Follicles are sacs within the ovaries that contain eggs. In polycystic ovary disease, there are many poorly developed follicles in the ovaries. The eggs in these follicles do not mature and, therefore, cannot be released from the ovaries. Instead, they form cysts in the ovary.
This can contribute to infertility. The immature follicles and the inability to release an egg (ovulate) are likely caused by low levels of follicle stimulating hormone (FSH), and higher-than-normal levels of male hormones (androgens) produced in the ovary.
Women are usually diagnosed when in their 20s or 30s. Women with this disorder often have a mother or sister who has symptoms similar to polycystic ovary disease.
Symptoms:
If you have polycystic ovary disease, you are likely to have some of the following symptoms:
Ø Abnormal, irregular, or very light or infrequent menstrual periods
Ø Absent periods, usually (but not always) after having one or more normal menstrual periods during puberty (secondary amenorrhea)
Ø Acne that gets worse
Ø Decreased breast size
Ø Development of male sex characteristics (virilization) such as increased body hair, facial hair, a deepening of the voice, male-pattern baldness, and enlargement of the clitorus.
Ø Diabetes
Ø Increased hair growth; body hair may be in a male pattern
Ø Infertility
Ø Poor response to the hormone, insulin (insulin resistance), leading to a build-up of insulin in the blood
Ø Weight gain, or obesity
Possible Complications:
Ø Increased risk of endometrial cancer
Ø Infertility
Ø Obesity-related conditions, such as high blood pressure and diabetes
Ø Possible increased risk of breast cancer
Fortunately, this disease is curable… women who have this condition can get pregnant with the right surgical or medical treatments… pregnancies are usually normal…
Treatment:
Medications used to treat the symptoms of polycystic ovary disease include:
Ø Birth control pills
Ø Clomiphene citrate
Ø Flutamide
Ø Spironolactone
Treatment with clomiphene citrate causes the pituitary gland to produce more FSH. This causes the egg to mature and be released. Sometimes women need stronger fertility drugs to get pregnant.
In women with polycystic ovary disease who also have insulin resistance, glucophage (Metformin), a medication that makes cells more sensitive to insulin, has been shown to make ovulation normal.
Losing weight (which can be difficult) may help to reduce the high insulin levels in the blood. For women with this condition who are overweight, weight loss can reduce insulin resistance, stimulate ovulation, and improve fertility rates.
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Tuesday, May 20, 2008
dealing with disappointments
yes, we make plans, have dreams, set goals…but the question is, will all of these materialize or will they end in complete failure? remember that the only certain thing in life is uncertainty… some of our plans may end up in glorious victory and some in frustrating defeat… that is life’s nature… and because of this, it is very important to learn how to deal with disappointment… we should not feel pain when things don’t go our way… actually, disappointment can build character and patience if you allow it to… it can teach you to learn from your setbacks, accept life with all its unexpected frustrations and come out the other side stronger…Here are six powerful steps to help you deal with disappointment:
Step 1: Acknowledge Your Automatic Coping Actions
Disappointment is a very difficult experience to endure. It's very easy to perceive disappointment as an unalterable failure. Disappointment can feel so overwhelmingly bad that your first automatic reaction might be to soothe yourself with some old tried and true coping strategy. Perhaps you find yourself overeating ice cream for comfort, going to bed to escape life, or drinking away your disappointment. Falling into an old comfort habit is fine, but it's not fine to remain there.
When you realize what you have done, let yourself know that it is okay that you checked out for a while. You're back now. And just because you overate or indulged yourself in a numbing or avoidance action, doesn't mean your disappointment is gone. It's still there inside of you, waiting for you to process it in an appropriate manner. When the effect of your coping strategy starts to wear off, take a deep breath and deal with your disappointment in positive, new ways.
Step 2: Acknowledge What You Feel
To move through your disappointment, begin from where you are. Whatever you are feeling is your starting place. Disappointment is a rotten sensation and if you are in an emotional uproar, that is acceptable. You feel what you feel. There's no need to be nice, or quiet, or suppressed. Instead of numbing out or avoiding what is real, express your pain. Cry if you want to cry, cuss at the unfairness of your situation, scream at the top of your lungs, beat a pillow, or write a raging letter about your disappointment. The point is not to blame, punish, or dump your feelings on anyone. Your purpose is to be honest with yourself about what you are feeling. If you feel hate, bitterness, self-pity, helplessness, or even desire revenge, then that is what you feel. Express yourself to yourself, get it out into the open, then move on to the next step.
Step 3: Put Things into Perspective
At first, your disappointment can feel like the end of the world. It's not easy to accept that you've worked hard to attain a certain outcome and now you face disappointment. Let yourself know that while your disappointment feels bad, this kind of thing happens to everyone in life. You are not being singled out or punished. Remind yourself that disappointments won't last forever. The sun will shine again, tomorrow will come, and soon you will feel better again.
Step 4: Dissolve Doubt
When experiencing disappointment, it can be easy to slip into doubt. You may automatically find yourself engaged in limited thinking, and feel yourself wanting to give up. Become aware of what beliefs rise to the surface as you face your disappointment. Here are a few examples:
- I can never have what I want.
- It was stupid of me to even try.
- There wasn't really much chance of success in the first place.
- My best is never good enough.
- Poor me, why does something like this always happen to me.
- I'm being punished.
The benefit of facing disappointment in a new way is that you allow yourself to become consciously aware of what you believe deep down inside of you about your life, your self, and your abilities to succeed. Once you can recognize your limiting beliefs, you can take steps to begin releasing those beliefs and building new self-empowering beliefs.
Step 5: Take Three Deep Breaths
Often, our first response is to analyze what went wrong and then try to fix the disappointment. We begin to obsess about the disappointment, telling ourselves repeatedly, "I'm so disappointed. What can I do?" We go over the situation repeatedly looking for a way to make it right, or for someone to blame. Notice how trying to fix the situation makes you feel tight, anxious, and fearful.
There is another option. When you are feeling disappointment, take three deep breaths and go into yourself. Allow your mind and body to relax and calm down. Release some of your tension. Now, as you consider your disappointment, say the words, "There's a positive lining to this disappointment and I'm sure something good is coming from this experience." Don't try to hide from your disappointment, but find ways to extract value from your experience. Notice that by breathing and relaxing a little, you begin to open to new possibilities along with new hope.
What you say to yourself during your disappointment can make all the difference. I'm not suggesting sugar-coated affirmations here. There is nothing worse than affirming, "I am blissful, content and serene" when you are anything but.
Step 6: Talk to You
Now more than ever, you need a friend to listen to your situation and to support you through this difficult time. That friend needs to be you. Go to the nearest mirror and talk to yourself. Tell your story, state out loud how you feel, and then encourage yourself. Tell yourself, "I can make it through this." Your words can help connect you to your spirit, your confidence, and your source of new possibilities. In case you are out of practice with your self-encouragement, here are some empowering statements that can lift your spirits:
- I know that I'll feel better soon.
- I've gotten through disappointment before. I know I'll get through this.
- I'm going to be open to the silver lining hidden within this disappointment.
- Good will come out of this situation. I choose to be patient as it unfolds.
- I don't know exactly what to do right now, but I know that I will make the right choices.
- I have choice over my feelings and right now, I choose to breathe more deeply into my peace, not my fear.
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Sunday, May 18, 2008
Thursday, May 15, 2008
How To Spend Money Wisely
Ø Find clothes on sale. Look for clearance sales at stores. Be sure to buy basic items like a long tank top, a basic t shirt, and at least 2 pairs of jeans.
Ø Find versatile footwear. Buy a pair of flip flops (black or white because they match with everything). Purchase lasting sneakers on clearance and nice going-out shoes.
Ø Avoid splurging too much at once. If you go out to the movies, for example, don't buy movie theatre snacks. Instead, after the movie, get a milkshake or doughnut from a store nearby. (or eat first before entering the theatre)
Ø Accessorize. But accessories are costly sometimes so if you are creative, you can save money from buying accessories from the malls. You can make your own purses, bags, wallets, cell phone, and ipod cases by crocheting and knitting.
Ø Save half of each paycheck and use the other half for spending. Or divide it into three, some for spending, some for saving and some for bills. (hope I can do this)
Ø If your job does not take up all your time, get a part-time job to make more money. Even if this job is a once-a-week thing, if it means more money, go for it!
Ø Do not get a credit card unless you are under deadly circumstances. A credit card just tempts you to splurge out. (which I am guilty of)
Ø Compile a list of what you need, and what you want. Budget for it so that when your salary comes in, you can buy what is on the list. Don't buy anything that is not on the list, though. Include food, clothes, and extras for the kids.
Ø Treat yourself when you have saved a lot of money. Instead of buying that expensive watch, you bought the cheaper one and saved yourself $300! Celebrate by going out for coffee with a friend.
Ø Ask for a pay raise if you feel you deserve one. Tell your boss why you think you deserve one, and reason fairly.
Ø Know when to limit yourself. If you are a magazine obsessed person and you buy 10 thousand magazines each month, stop! Just buy one or two of your favorite magazines.
Ø Don't go out and spend all of your money at the pub, drinking. It is such a waste. Limit yourself to a couple of drinks or no drinks per week. Or you can just quit drinking altogether. It will surely save you a lot of money.
Ø Go through all of your old stuff, sort out a section that you don't want and sell it. Hold a garage sale or auction off stuff on eBay. Instant cash!
Ø Buy all your stuff from Amazon or eBay. Books that are $49.95 at book shops are $2.07 there!
Ø Avoid borrowing money. It adds up to the cost. You really want something. Put it on a list, and get it next month!
Ø Limit your computer, telephone, television, radio, and electricity time.
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